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The Societal Dangers of the Trending “I’ll Help You If It Helps Me” Behaviour

by | Apr 4, 2023

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The Societal Dangers of the Trending “I’ll Help You If It Helps Me” Behaviour

An In-Depth Look Into The Consequences of Selfishness in Society

As an experienced endurance runner, I have learned the importance of working together towards a common goal. Whether it’s a team relay race or a long-distance run, I know that we can achieve more when we help each other. Unfortunately, I’ve noticed a disturbing trend in society lately – the idea that we should only help others if it benefits us in some way. This mentality of “I’ll help you if it helps me” is dangerous and could have severe consequences for our communities and beyond.

The Problem With “I’ll Help You If It Helps Me”

The mentality of “I’ll help you if it helps me” is becoming increasingly prevalent in society, and it’s not hard to see why. In today’s world, we’re often encouraged to look out for number one and to prioritize our own needs above those of others. We’re told that we need to be competitive and ambitious to succeed, and that we shouldn’t waste our time helping others who aren’t willing or able to help us in return.

While there’s certainly nothing wrong with being ambitious and striving for success, this mentality of selfishness can be incredibly damaging to society as a whole. When we only help others if it benefits us in some way, we create a culture of mistrust and division. People become less likely to reach out for help when they need it, and less likely to offer help when they see someone else struggling. This can lead to feelings of isolation, anxiety, and despair, and can even contribute to the breakdown of communities and social structures.

The Impact of Selfishness on Mental Health

One of the most significant dangers of the “I’ll help you if it helps me” mentality is its impact on mental health. When we’re constantly focused on our own needs and priorities, we can become disconnected from the world around us. We may feel lonely, anxious, or depressed, and may struggle to find meaning and purpose in our lives.

Furthermore, when we only help others if it benefits us in some way, we miss out on the many benefits of altruism and compassion. Helping others has been shown to improve our own mental health, boost our mood, reduce stress, and increase feelings of happiness and fulfillment. When we deny ourselves the opportunity to help others, we’re essentially denying ourselves a powerful tool for improving our own well-being.

The Economic Consequences of Selfishness

The “I’ll help you if it helps me” mentality can also have severe economic consequences. When we’re only willing to help others if it benefits us financially or professionally, we create a culture of transactional relationships. This can lead to a decline in trust and cooperation, which can be devastating for businesses, organizations, and communities.

Examples of Negative Economic Impacts:
  1. Increased competition rather than collaboration, resulting in less innovation and progress
  2. Decreased productivity due to employees focusing more on their own needs than those of the company
  3. Reduced morale among employees due to lack of support and teamwork

The Importance of Building a Culture of Altruism and Compassion

If we want to build a better, healthier, and more prosperous society, we need to start prioritizing altruism and compassion over selfishness and self-interest. This means taking steps to encourage and reward acts of kindness and generosity, whether they benefit us directly or not.

One way to do this is to focus on building strong, supportive communities that prioritize collaboration and teamwork. This can be done by creating spaces where people can come together to share resources, exchange ideas, and work towards common goals. It can also involve promoting values like empathy, compassion, and generosity, both in our personal lives and in our professional ones.

Ways to Promote Altruism and Compassion:
  1. Volunteer regularly in your community
  2. Donate to charitable organizations that align with your values
  3. Make an effort to connect with your neighbours and local businesses
  4. Look for opportunities to collaborate with others, rather than competing with them
  5. Practice active listening and empathy when interacting with others

The Role of Education in Building Altruistic Societies

Another crucial factor in promoting altruism and compassion is education. We need to teach young people from an early age about the importance of kindness, empathy, and compassion, and give them the tools they need to put these values into practice in their own lives.

This can involve incorporating lessons on empathy and compassion into school curriculums, as well as promoting service learning and community service projects. It can also involve providing training and support for teachers, parents, and other caregivers so that they can model and reinforce these values in their own interactions with children.


As an endurance runner, I know that we can achieve great things when we work together towards a common goal. The same is true for society as a whole. If we want to build a better, healthier, and more prosperous world, we need to prioritize altruism and compassion over selfishness and self-interest. By taking steps to promote these values in our own lives and our communities, we can create a brighter future for all.

Patrick Michel

Endurance Runner – Marketing Strategist

Patrick Michel is a Montreal-based endurance runner specializing in long-distance multi-stage charity ultra runs. For almost two decades, he has inspired many to engage in running, get fit and grow stronger physically and mentally. He has also written many articles about running.